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The
vampire syndrome and abuse survivors
Many survivors worry about the so-called "Vampire
Syndrome" having read about it in articles in
newspapers etc. Unfortunately most worry about it unduly,
and the newspapers tend to over state the case, but what
the hell… it sells papers… so they say. Well
sell papers or not it is time to have a better look at
things.
The "Vampire Syndrome" basically is ---- boys/girls
who are sexually abused, like the victims of "Count
Dracula", will go on to "bite" others, in
this case, sexually abuse others.
This is of course largely a MYTH, and a rather dangerous
one at that. Whilst it is true that some, offenders have histories of sexual abuse, it is NOT
true that the vast majority of victims will thus go on to
become offenders. Of those offenders whom have a history
of abuse, the main difference appears to be that they did
not consider themselves to have suffered abuse when young,
nor any ill effects from what happened to them. Most
offenders consider the event to have been an act of
teaching about sex, or as a bonus in some other way, and
in no way abuse. The fact that YOU consider yourself to
be a victim means that you are in fact very unlikely to
offend against others. You realize what damage the abuse
has done to you, and thus you have the safe guard of
knowing what affect sexual abuse would have on another.
More so, you would also see such actions as abuse, where
as the vast majority of offenders would not.
The fact
that YOU consider yourself to be a victim means
that you are in fact very unlikely to offend
against others.
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Some victims will during their
teens engage in sexual activity with others of their own
age in a consensual way, and may in later years look back
on this as abusive. In some cases it may have been so,
but in most cases I doubt if it was neither perceived by
the other person as such, nor meant in that way. In any
case, even if you do consider it was abusive, and you NOW realize it as such, the chances are that you were too
young to realize what effects the abuse that you had
suffered had had on you. This is not meant as an excuse,
just to say that it would be understandable, and would be
your abusers fault in many ways because of the way they
distorted your reality. Even those that do abusive things
in their teens are unlikely to become offenders later on
in life once they realize what effect the abuse has had
on them, and perceive it as such.
The main thing to remember is that once a person starts
on recovery, having realized that they have been abused,
they are unlikely to sexually abuse a child if they do
not have a history of having done so in the past.
The "Vampire Syndrome" is in large a myth, and
the sooner people realize that the sooner that survivors will
find it easier to come forward with their stories of
having been abused, or raped. The fact that this myth is
used by newspapers, and the media in general, hurts many
males that have suffered and helps those that force
abused people to keep their secret.
©by starman_uk
AEST site admin
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