The sexual abuse of males
by starman_uk (AEST) 

Rape and sexual assault can happen to anyone, including males. Many thousands of men and boys are sexually assaulted and raped every year, and it has nothing to do with their race, class, age, religion, sexual orientation, size, appearance, or strength. A male can be sexually assaulted by a stranger, a family member, friend, baby-sitter, or someone he knows and trusts such as a teacher etc.

Experts expect that more than 1 in 5 men are sexually violated during their lifetime. Even though male sexual assault remains vastly under reported, the United States Department of Justice, for example, documents over 13,500 cases of male rape every year, and many more cases of childhood sexual abuse. This is thought to be only the tip of the iceberg, the true number been at least 5 to 6 times higher. In the UK there are no government figures that I can locate.

The sexual abuse of males brings with it some different and extra issues for the male victim of abuse. Many of these come from what society has in the past taught males that they should be like, even though many of these assumptions are quite wrong.

For instance :- all males should be strong and able to safeguard themselves. Of course, some males are physically strong, but physical strength is NO guarantee that a male can protect himself. Unfortunately the male victim of abuse has such ideas to deal with on top of the abuse, and in most cases, these ideas will make it vastly harder for a male to deal with the abuse.

Males also tend to mistrust their sexuality because of the abuse more than females do. To some extent this is because we males get an erection at the drop of a hat, usually when we do not need nor want one. For the abuser this gives a weapon that he can use… "You must have liked it because … you got an erection… or you ejaculated… or both". This is quite wrong of course, but does lead to a lot of confusion.

 Neither of which means that you found the experience pleasurable and neither of which mean that you must be gay or bisexual, and neither which were your fault if you are gay or bisexual. Whilst it is true that it is possible to think of thoughts that will cause an erection, it is not possible to think of thoughts that will stop you getting an erection when being stimulated. Also, muscles in the anus often relax when a man is raped, but this if also true of any animal on the planet that it very afraid, and NOT a sign that you wanted, nor enjoyed, the experience.

Males who have been abused often have problems with sexuality, masturbation problems, having been brought up to be strong, dealing with anger and other things. All of which will be looked into at this site either on other pages now or will be added soon.

also see

Myths and facts about male rape

rape trauma syndrome